Friends...

Hi.. this post is devoted to friendship...

What is it? A simple bond btw ppl.. a symbol of love tt shld not have any barriers.. oh, but it does. Conflicting interests.... love triangles. religion. politics. money. morals. and even appearances sometimes.... its sad, really. Its much more common btw all people than romantic love, u know, bgr.... and it can be just as noble. But in definition, it has been interpreted as many different times as the Bible, the Koran, and all the religions, combined.

But this is my blog.. so I'll say my definition.
Friends are not always there with you.. not physically, you can't expect that. Like all people, they ae not perfect.. they will conflict with you, they will hurt you, they will hit you even. They bear grudges, show temper, and the list goes on. But above all.... a true friend will never backstab. Never go around spreading false rumours, or even a malicious truth without first confronting the friend about it. A friend will never leave you behind in the darkest of your days, to rot and to lie alone, waiting for death. He will not abandon you even if you both have an argument... or simply glorify you when you are great only to leave you when you are down.
Those are fair-weather friends... as bad as one night standers, its more like casual sex than friendship this way. Family of course comes first, so I dun expect a friend to deny his mother's orders to help me. No... you shldnt expect tt, cos parents have more love for a child than we wld ever know at this time.
Friends will not force you into a decision... unless they believe it is for your own good. Like not to take drugs, to drop someone whom they feel is a bad influence, etc. Sometimes when they do tt they risk your wrath, other ppl's anger, and even splitsville wiv you. But still... tts them. Love is abt sacrifice... and yes, its cruel, but tts life. Personally, though, I'm not that noble... I still believe in freedom of decision, after all, its your life. What you want to do with it will be yours alone to decide.. since the consequence is yours. Even so, it will not be yours alone... because friends help each other bear burdens, don't they?
Friends are not, as I mentioned earlier, sugary sweet. No... not entirely. They will criticise you, point out your flaws, help you correct them. The Bible says you must " pluck out the plank from your own eye before you pull the splinter from your brother's" or something like that.. but what if it is sawdust? You can't reach it, and neither can your friend... you will have to blow each other's eyes. Most of the time, flaws are sawdust... invisible to us, a mere irritant, but it can be a fatal problem in certain situations. To quote another person , " we have 2 bags filled with Imperfections all the time... one in front and one behind... the one in front is our neighbour's, the one behind ( and invisible to us) is our own" This, in short, means we have to help each other see our flaws and correct them... cos our habits die hard, and when we get used to them they remain hidden from us..

So what kind of friend am I?

I think of myself as a dark-weather friend.. I want to be there when you are at your darkest days. When you have to walk thru a desert of despair, I want to be there with you. I may not be able to do much... I am well aware of my limitations socially or physically..... but nevertheless, I will not leave you alone if you wish. I will never backstab you ... if i hear a rumour about you I'd rather ask you first abt it or confirm it with facts and then confront you with it. If not I'll just shut up. I don't want to force people into decisions.. I doubt I ever will. I'll try to influence it but in the end, I recognise that its all up to you. I will not die for friends, family or even lovers... I'm not that noble. I'll live for them... to help them whenever I can, to be there when I have to, to just simply be another irritating fellow to write about in your blog.. heh. Whatever... if you have any reason to care about me, I'll live for you. After all, I'll be of no use to anyone dead.

Hah.. all this is probably some fantasy of mine... like kids wanting to be soldiers or He-Man when they grow up.

Well thats all I'm writing for now... I'll want to update this in the future but i gotta go now...
and my thanks to all my friends who might be reading this.